{"id":9035,"date":"2026-06-03T18:22:49","date_gmt":"2026-06-03T18:22:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/humorsidehub.com\/?p=9035"},"modified":"2026-06-03T18:22:51","modified_gmt":"2026-06-03T18:22:51","slug":"woman-calls-out-double-standard-of-baby-boomer-parents-who-begged-her-to-have-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/humorsidehub.com\/?p=9035","title":{"rendered":"Woman calls out double standard of baby boomer parents who begged her to have kids"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

You can\u2019t have it both ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a strange phenomenon that occurred in the 1970s<\/a>, 1980s, and 1990s<\/a>, when Gen Xers<\/a> and older millennials<\/a> were raised: their baby boomer<\/a> parents were not around<\/a> very much. This generation of children was often taken care of by daycares or attended school with keys strung around their necks, and when they came home, they were told not to answer the door until a parent arrived. They were the children raised during both the divorce epidemic<\/a> and the time when, for many families, both parents had to work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the least parented generation in American history had great relationships with their grandparents, who loved to spend time with them and take on babysitting duties. But now that the kids raised in the \u201870s, \u201880s, and \u201990s have children, they\u2019re noticing something interesting: the parents who weren\u2019t around to raise them aren\u2019t that into being grandparents either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a lot of talk about the differences between baby boomers as grandparents<\/a> and their parents from the Silent Generation<\/a>. Some believe it\u2019s because baby boomers have more money than their parents, who were raised at a time when grandparents played a more significant role in child-rearing. After all, they didn\u2019t expect to travel or have busy social lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"baby<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

This generation trend begs the question: Why do boomer parents beg their kids to have children, but shy away when it comes to spending time with them? An upset mother shared about the double standard on Reddit<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMy mother, a devout Christian, always preached the importance of getting married and having children. Now that I\u2019ve done both (and happily so) and moved to be closer to her, she has very little interest in hanging out with us and never, ever offers to watch her grandkids,\u201d she wrote. \u201cI\u2019ve been reading up on this, and it seems that it\u2019s not uncommon. After moving across the country during COVID, I had dreams of my mom wanting to be an active part of our lives. The sad truth of it is, is that I see her maybe once more a year than when I lived across the country\u2026and it\u2019s not for lack of trying on my part.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The post resonated with many mothers her age who had experienced the same problem. Their boomer parents begged them to have children, but they won\u2019t lift a finger to see them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYup, completely describes my boomer parents. They begged and begged for us to relocate back to my home city. Still, as we began searching for new job opportunities\/places to live, we naturally discussed the possibility of them spending some alone time with the grandkids from time to time,\u201d another mom wrote. \u201cThat was a full stop for them. Both my parents insisted they\u2019d retired from child watching duties and would not ever be utilized as \u2018babysitters.\u2019 The only acceptable option for them was for us to be present the entirety of the time their grandkids were interacting with them.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"baby<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI think you hit the nail on the head. A lot of the boomers want to be \u2018seen\u2019 as \u2018good grandparents\u2019 while not doing a damn thing,\u201d another mom added.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another mom noted that their grandparents were amazing, but their parents are the exact opposite. \u201cWhat\u2019s crazy is I spent TONS of time with my grandparents as a child. I\u2019d routinely be dropped off on the weekends and weeknights,\u201d the mother wrote. \u201cMy grandparents picked me up from school regularly. It\u2019s not like my grandparents were doing the same behavior, and therefore it\u2019s a learned generational thing.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"baby<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

One mother in the thread had some sympathy for baby boomers who felt a lot of pressure to have children, regardless of whether they wanted them or not. She believes that now they\u2019re getting their time back. \u201cIt\u2019s because even though Boomers had the physical choice to become parents, they didn\u2019t have the cultural\/social choice. Whenever I hear this story, I figure the grandparents didn\u2019t really want children. It also explains why we were at our grandparents so often: anything they could do to not be around us, they took it up,\u201d she wrote.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s wrong to paint an entire generation with the same brush, and there are, no doubt, plenty of wonderful baby boomer grandparents out there. However, it\u2019s not surprising that a group of people once called the \u201cMe Generation\u201d<\/a> is more reluctant to spend time with their families than those who came before them. One wonders if their feelings toward family will change when they become the ones who need to be cared for?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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