It\u2019s all about being genuinely open and curious.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When we think of someone likable, we often imagine <\/a>a person with a big personality<\/a> who\u2019s the life of the party. We conjure up images of social butterflies and people who keep everyone at the dinner party glued to their every word when they tell a story. The funny thing is, according to research<\/a>, that\u2019s not really the case.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Studies show that the easiest way to make someone like you is to show interest by asking questions<\/a> during the conversation<\/a> and making it clear that you like them<\/u><\/a>. People also really love those who come off as genuine<\/u><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Michael Gendler, a co-founder of Ultraspeaking<\/u><\/a>, a platform that helps people master the art of public speaking, recently shared three \u201cmagic\u201d phrases that make you more likable, all of which align with what science tells us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This phrase resonates with people because it shows you\u2019re genuine by admitting your vulnerability. \u201cMan, talk about your feats, real fears, not like \u2018Oh, I\u2019m scared I\u2019m going to be too successful.\u2019 Tell us about something that actually scares you. Don\u2019t be guarded. Be open, and other people will appreciate that,\u201d Gendler says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This phrase makes people like you because it counters a psychological phenomenon known as\u00a0signal amplification<\/u><\/a>\u00a0bias, which suggests we tend to overestimate how clearly we express our feelings to others. This means that, many times, when we think others know we like them, they may not be so sure. So a little assurance goes a long way toward showing them the feeling is mutual. \u201cPeople love being complimented as long as it is genuine,\u201d Gendler says.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n As Dale Carnegie wrote in How to Make Friends and Influence People<\/em>, the key to interacting with others is focusing on being interested in them rather than trying to impress them by being interesting. \u201cBe interested, not interesting,\u201d Carnegie writes.<\/u><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n A\u00a0Harvard study<\/u><\/a>\u00a0supports this, showing that when you first start speaking with someone, you should follow your first question with\u00a0two more<\/u><\/a>. People who do this are rated as much more likable than those who, after one question, shift the conversation to themselves. \u201cPeople love feeling like what they\u2019re saying is interesting. So invite them to speak more,\u201d Gendler continues.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ultraspeaking\u2019s post is a breath of fresh air for those who aren\u2019t comfortable trying to impress others at parties, on dates, or in the office. The video shows that if you make people feel important, they\u2019re much more likely to like you in return. The key is that it has to come from the heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cRemember, don\u2019t just use these phrases and expect them to work,\u201d Gendler says. \u201cThey have to be genuine and open. That\u2019s what makes people likable.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It\u2019s all about being genuinely open and curious. 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Phrase 1: \u201cHere\u2019s what really scares me\u2026\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Phrase 2: \u201cYou know what I really like about you?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Phrase 3: \u201cTell me more\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Don\u2019t forget to be genuine<\/h2>\n\n\n\n