Dr. Rebecca Kennedy<\/a>, aka \u201cDr. Becky,\u201d is a clinical psychologist<\/a> and founder and CEO of Good Inside<\/a> who says she has a quick way to make your kids more cooperative and less rude. Talk about killing two soul-crushing birds with one parenting stone. Dr. Becky got into psychology<\/u><\/a> after struggling with anorexia as a teenager.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cOkay, no matter how old your kid is, you can use this 15-second tip to decrease rudeness and increase cooperation,\u201d she says in a TikTok video with over 32,000 views. \u201cFind your child today and ask them this question. \u2018Hey, I was just wondering, what could I do better as your parent?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n The psychologist says that even if the child has a random or impractical answer such as \u201cLet me stay up \u2018til midnight\u201d or \u201cI\u2019d like to eat macaroni and cheese for breakfast, lunch and dinner,\u201d just to listen. Simply by listening, you can change your child\u2019s behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She says we should also ask more questions to further the conversation: \u201cTell me more. What would that be like?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Want to improve your relationship with your kid in less than 15 seconds? Watch this reel for a quick-win strategy. The best part: When we use strategies like this in calm moments, we reduce the frequency of difficult moments with our kids. Of course, I\u2019m a realist\u2026 I know you need in-the-moment strategies too! Cue: My Conquering Problem Behaviors Workshop. You\u2019ll get an entire toolbox of in-the-moment and outside-the-moment strategies for reducing outbursts and strengthening your bond with your kid. Learn more in the link in bio! \u266c original sound \u2013 Dr. Becky | Psychologist<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n \u201cI mean, imagine your boss coming to you randomly and asking how they could be a better manager to you. Just by asking the question and listening,\u201d she continued. Dr. Becky says that asking our kids how we\u2019re doing as parents communicates three essential ideas: \u201cI care about you. I respect you. I\u2019m invested in this relationship.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n This type of questioning builds a connection with a child that can spill over into other behaviors. \u201cYou\u2019re building connection. And with more connection always comes more cooperation,\u201d she ends the video.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The big takeaway from the video is that when we enhance our connection with our kids, they will be less likely to disobey or be rude because they feel heard and respected, so there\u2019s no need to act out. They will also return that respect by listening to you when you have a request, such as taking out the trash or putting down their phone and coming to dinner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Some people in the comments got funny responses when they asked their kids what they could improve. \u201cI asked my 5yr old. I got a mildly scathing look and she said \u2018erm, maybe try and burn dinner less next time?\u2019\u201d one parent wrote. \u201cMy 5 yo told me to look better and get a haircut,\u201d another added.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dr. Becky\u2019s quick question is a great way for parents to strengthen their relationships when things are going well instead of trying to forge connections during conflict. It\u2019s a great reminder that even when parenting, an ounce of prevention is a pound of cure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dr. Becky sums up the importance of prevention in her TikTok caption: \u201cWhen we use strategies like this in calm moments, we reduce the frequency of difficult moments with our kids,\u201d she wrote.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" All it takes is a single question. 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