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What makes a \u2018good person\u2019 is hard to quantify, but sometimes, you just know it when you see it. But that\u2019s the problem, you can\u2019t always see<\/em> it. Have you ever met somebody new and wondered if they were a good person with a mischievous streak or a bad person<\/a> who can turn on the charm and behave occasionally? Determining someone\u2019s true moral character<\/a> is important, especially if you start dating them or have a business relationship. It is crucial to get to the core of who they are and know whether they can be trusted.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Popular TikTok philosopher<\/a> and Substack writer Juan de Medeiros<\/a> recently shared a great way to determine whether someone is good or bad. His rubric for judging someone\u2019s moral character comes from a quote commonly attributed to Johann Wolfgang von Goethe<\/a>, a German poet, playwright, novelist, and intellectual known for works like Faust<\/em> and The Sorrows of Young Werther<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cHere\u2019s a pretty good indicator that somebody is a bad person and vice versa, how you can spot a good one. And this goes back to a simple rule, a moral aphorism by Goethe in which he writes, \u2018Never trust someone who is unkind to those who can do nothing for him,\u2019\u201d de Medeiros shared in a TikTok video with over 45,000 views.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cNever trust someone who is unkind to those who can do nothing for him.\u201d \u2014Johann Wolfgang von Goethe<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n De Medeiros then provided real-world ways to determine whether the person you have questions about is good or bad. \u201cA bad person is unfriendly to strangers, to the elderly, to children, to service staff, to anybody they\u2019re not trying to impress,\u201d he said. At the same time, the good person treats people equally, no matter what they can do for him. They\u2019re good for goodness sake, not to get anything out of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cA good person carries grace within them and shares it freely with abundance. A good person treats other people as they would like to be treated as well. And it doesn\u2019t matter who you are, it doesn\u2019t matter what your status is, they will treat you and see you as their equal,\u201d de Medeiros said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Goethe\u2019s quote echoes the common red\/green flag test that many people have on dates. Sure, it\u2019s important if your date is courteous and treats you well on the date, but you really want to watch how they interact with the server. The rule is often called \u201cThe Waiter Rule,\u201d outlined by William Swanson. Swanson, the former chairman and CEO of Raytheon Company, wrote in his book, 33 Unwritten Rules of Management<\/a><\/em>, \u201cA person who is nice to you but rude to the waiter\u2014or to others\u2014is not a nice person.\u201d Boxer Muhammad Ali is also known for saying something similar: \u201cI don\u2019t trust anyone who\u2019s nice to me but rude to the waiter. Because they would treat me the same way if I were in that position.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\nHow can you tell if someone is a good or a bad person?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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