These minor problems are red flags<\/a> that point to larger, more profound issues happening with the couple. While it may seem like these reasons are signs of unavoidable doom, they can also act as a warning for couples everywhere: if these signs appear in your relationship<\/a>, get help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cI can tell a bride and groom<\/a> that\u2019s going to get divorced before they even get married,\u201d Robin Yarusso says in a TikTok video<\/a>. \u201cSo I\u2019ve planned like 100 weddings and probably like 25, 30 proposals, and there are certain things that happen that I\u2019ve seen time and time again with my brides and grooms that have divorced later on.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cIf you smash cake, I don\u2019t know what it represents, but for some reason, none of my brides and grooms that did that are still together,\u201d Yarusso says in the video.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yarusso told TODAY.com<\/a> that if the couple \u201cdidn\u2019t agree on it, didn\u2019t discuss it, or if one said \u2018no\u2019 and it still happens, then it\u2019s disrespectful. If the bride looks upset, like \u2018Oh my gosh,\u2019 and you didn\u2019t want that to happen\u2014I haven\u2019t had a single couple survive that.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kevin Thompson, a pastor who has done countless weddings, says that when one person shoves the cake in the other\u2019s face unexpectedly, it shows four questionable <\/u><\/a>characteristics: pride, force, revenge, and contempt. All of these characteristics don\u2019t bode well for a happy marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cSo if I have a bride that\u2019s calling me on the side, being like, \u2018Let\u2019s add this to the flowers. Don\u2019t tell Jim. Let\u2019s do that.\u2019 Don\u2019t. The don\u2019t-tells, those. Those people end up getting divorced,\u201d Yarusso says in the video.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When a bride or groom makes secret financial arrangements behind the other\u2019s back, it says two terrible things: they disagree on money<\/u><\/a>\u2014a major predictor of divorce\u2014and that they can\u2019t be trusted. If they\u2019re lying about money, what else are they being dishonest about?<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cIf your mother or the groom\u2019s mother, the bride\u2019s mother, whichever one it is, if that mother is overstepping where she shouldn\u2019t and her child doesn\u2019t check her, it usually leads to problems in the marriage,\u201d Yarusso says in the video.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
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