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You\u2019ve scored something truly amazing \u2014 your dream job, the apartment with the exposed brick kitchen, a DM exchange with Phoebe Bridgers<\/a> \u2014 and while most of your friends are dancing around in delight, one is sulking in the corner, giving you green-eyed side-eye<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Making other people jealous of your stellar achievements may seem pretty harmless, but if your friends are jealous of you, it can get in the way of a healthy relationship \u2014 and feels pretty cruddy, to boot. \u201cI got a book deal. It was great. Half the people in my MFA stopped talking to me,\u201d Maya, 35, tells Bustle. \u201cIt was the best thing that had ever happened to me professionally, and I literally stopped getting invited to parties.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Experts say that people rarely feel comfortable admitting that they\u2019re envious<\/a> outright, which means you may end up playing detective to figure out why your childhood bestie is being distant and passive-aggressive. \u201cRemember that this type of behavior is not about you, but about your friend\u2019s issues and insecurities,\u201d counselor Heidi McBain, LMFT<\/a>, tells Bustle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Below, experts weigh in on signs of jealousy in friendship \u2014 and what you can do to address it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. They Say Situations Are \u201cUnfair\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Are your friends the kind to regularly talk about how it\u2019s \u201cunfair\u201d that you have certain things and they don\u2019t? \u201cOne way to tell if a friend may be jealous or envious of you is to pay attention to how they talk about other people and view the world in general,\u201d Liz Kelly LICSW<\/a>, a therapist with mental health platform Talkspace, tells Bustle. \u201cThere is a good chance that your friend might be jealous of you if they often feel that life is unfair.\u201d Often, those who use this term are blaming outside circumstances for why they can\u2019t achieve what a friend can \u2014 even though both of you can do whatever you set your minds to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. They\u2019re Always Super Competitive<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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A little of competition can be a good thing, but too much could be a sign your friends are seeing green. You spurred one another along like champs, but now things are getting more complicated than Paris and Rory in the early seasons of Gilmore Girls<\/em>,<\/a> and their one-upmanship is causing issues. Not <\/strong>only does excessive competitiveness go hand-in-hand with jealously, it can also be a sign the friendship is toxic<\/a>, experts tell Bustle.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. They Stay Away From Your Social Media While Lavishing Attention On Others<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

It seems like a small thing, but Cynthia Catchings LCSW-S, LCSW-C<\/a>, also a therapist with Talkspace, says that their Insta and Twitter comments can be a legit sign of jealousy. If they don\u2019t like or comment on your social media posts while giving a lot to the others in your group chat, she says, that could be a sign that they\u2019re avoiding praising you out of jealousy. If they\u2019re just a hermit who hates social media or can\u2019t remember to check Twitter to save their lives, though, don\u2019t read too much into it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. They\u2019re Always Negative<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Jealousy is often subtle, experts tell Bustle, but you can pick it out if you listen to it. \u201cYou can pay attention to their comments, which are typically passive-aggressive,<\/a> or direct but negative,\u201d Catchings says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI couldn\u2019t say anything that was good about my life,\u201d Jane, 22, tells Bustle, of a group of jealous friends. \u201cI had to cut them off because everything I said, they\u2019d just counter with how awful their<\/em> life was. And I\u2019d end up comforting them rather than celebrating myself, and feeling crap about even mentioning good things.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. They Try To Bring You Down<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You tell your friends that you got that promotion, and somehow, they manage to turn it into a bad thing<\/a>. (Who cares if you\u2019re paying more taxes when you\u2019re making more money!) \u201cA friend feeling envious of you might show up as them trying to undermine you and bring you down,\u201d McBain says. A pal who responds to your positive life updates with something like, \u201cWell, it wasn\u2019t like there was anyone else up for it, but good for you,\u201d might be having a real attack of jealousy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. They Refuse To Celebrate You<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re hosting a housewarming brunch to celebrate that new apartment, and your friend makes a last-minute excuse to go home and feed their cat \u2014 or worse, they show up and sulk the entire time, or direct the conversation away from how wonderful your plant corner is. <\/strong>\u201cNot celebrating your successes with you <\/a>is a sign\u201d of jealousy, McBain says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cA few people did show up for my book launch, so that was nice,\u201d Maya says. \u201cBut by that stage, I didn\u2019t trust them at all.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. They Need To Upstage You<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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\u201cFriends or family members that feel envious of you<\/a> typically one-up you,\u201d Catchings says. \u201cNo matter what you have done, they have done it before and better.\u201d Your pay raise isn\u2019t as impressive as the one they got last year, the vacation you took pales in comparison to their holiday, and your volunteer work is very nice, but did they mention they gave $10,000 to charity last year? It\u2019s a clear sign of self-esteem issues, Catchings says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. They’re Very Insecure<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Behind every jealous person are some of their own insecurities<\/a>, McBain says. Are your friends the insecure type? Those who are comfortable with themselves and have a strong sense of self-esteem tend to be less jealous of those around them. On the other hand, if you notice your friends are not secure in who they are, you might find them more likely to rear the inner green-eyed monster.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. They Don\u2019t Respect Your Decisions<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A jealous friend will constantly criticize your actions or choices<\/a>, Catchings says. Let\u2019s say you choose to go on vacation with your spouse and leave your dog at home with grandma. Instead of being excited for you that you\u2019re getting some much-needed time away, your friends make you feel guilty for not bringing your dog with you. If it seems like no matter what you do your friends are always dragging your decisions through the mud, this could be another sign they\u2019re flat out jealous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. They\u2019re Obsessed With Status<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Are your friends obsessed with getting invited to elite events? Need to get their hands on the latest designer trends? Then, when you get something above and beyond what they have, they seem to struggle? \u201cIf they are obsessed with being invited to the best parties and achieving a certain social status, they may be jealous,\u201d Kelly says. Status and success are huge players<\/a> in jealousy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. They Play Down Your Accomplishments<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Accomplished something huge? To your friends, it\u2019s not a big deal whatsoever. They might play it off like, \u201cOh, you got a raise \u2014 how nice! A lot of people got raises this year.\u201d Jealous friends will do this as a way of leveling the playing field, and making themselves feel better. Catchings says these negative comments<\/a> are designed to shut you down, even if they\u2019re cloaked in \u201chonesty.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMy friend used to say she was trying to put stuff in perspective, so I didn\u2019t get big-headed,\u201d Jane says. \u201cIt just ended up making me feel small.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. They\u2019re Talking Behind Your Back<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Jealousy may not come out in front of you, but it\u2019s more than likely being exposed behind the scenes, often to your other friends. \u201cOther people may tell you that your friend is talking about you behind your back<\/a>, and they deny it when you confront them,\u201d Catchings says. This can go the other way. Kelly says if your friend regularly gossips about others and downplays their achievements in conversation, it\u2019s possible they\u2019re doing that to you, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. They Act Fake When You Share Good Things That Have Happened In Your Life<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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You have some exciting updates to tell your friends, but when you say the words you\u2019re immediately met with smiles faker than a Gucci handbag from a guy on a street corner. This isn\u2019t a once in a blue moon thing, either \u2014 it happens every time. Catchings says there are certain facial signs you can identify as jealousy in this situation. \u201cLook for fake smiles,<\/a> rolling eyes, or lack of eye contact,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. Their Body Language Reveals Insecurity<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When you tell them things about your life, their faces might be placid and delightful \u2014 but their bodies might tell another story. \u201cObserving your friend\u2019s body language<\/a> is an easy way to detect envy,\u201d Catchings says. Maybe they cross their arms, turn slightly away from you, or overdo it with the hugs and closeness so that you start to feel a bit smothered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

15. They Avoid You, Particularly After Good Things<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Maybe they\u2019ve done all the celebrating with you \u2014 but now they can\u2019t be found. \u201cAvoiding you and not wanting to spend time together can be a sign of jealousy,\u201d McBain says. Seeing you creates difficult and negative feelings for them<\/a>, so they\u2019re attempting to deal by dashing in the other direction, rather than taking it out on you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

16. Their Compliments Are Actually Insults<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A backhanded compliment<\/a> \u2014 one that looks like praise but actually contains an insult \u2014 is a common sign of jealousy, Catchings says. \u201cThis makes them think that they are in control, but in reality, they are suffering and afraid.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

17. They Are Always Discouraging<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Jealous people are likely to focus on telling you why you can\u2019t <\/em>do something, versus telling you why you can. \u201c<\/em>A truly terrible ex-mate told me not to bother applying for college masters programs because I wouldn\u2019t get in and would end up disappointed,\u201d Sabrina, 29, tells Bustle. \u201cI applied, and then they got mad at me when I was accepted!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

18. They Don\u2019t Support You At All<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A final sneaky sign of jealousy in friends is that they are not supportive of you. Really in need of a listening ear, but every time you can\u2019t track down your friends at all? A true friend will want you to succeed and to be happy<\/a>\u2026 and they\u2019ll be there for you, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Envy doesn\u2019t always have to mean a friendship is over. Bringing the issue to the table with them \u2014 and explaining why it makes you upset \u2014 is the way to makes strides toward rectifying the problem. By bringing it to light, your friends might begin to think twice before making comments and acting in ways that leave you feeling badly and torn down. McBain also suggests exploring the issue in therapy, so you can figure out strategies to deal with your friend\u2019s needs and how to leave the friendship if you need to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the signs of jealous friends seem to hit home hard for you, it might be time to take action. Just remember to be candid with them, and you can start making moves to diminish the issue, and in turn, better the friendships.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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