{"id":1573,"date":"2025-10-09T07:10:18","date_gmt":"2025-10-09T07:10:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/humorsidehub.com\/?p=1573"},"modified":"2025-10-09T07:10:20","modified_gmt":"2025-10-09T07:10:20","slug":"unsafe-and-idiotic-is-how-they-described-it-i-was-hurt-i-cried-heavy-tears-all-night-mom-insists-evil-will-not-win-after-neighbor-confronts-her-about","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/humorsidehub.com\/?p=1573","title":{"rendered":"\u2018Unsafe and idiotic,\u2019 is how they described it. I was hurt. I cried heavy tears all night.\u2019: Mom insists \u2018evil will not win\u2019 after neighbor confronts her about memorial for her late son"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201cThis is heartbreaking to write. To have to recognize just how hurtful and mean-spirited people can be, EVEN when they know your painful story or circumstances. Sometimes, because<\/em> of your story or circumstances.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each year on July 3rd, the anniversary of my son Sloan\u2019s death<\/a>, we hold a small family and friends memorial for him. After the sun sets, we light tethered sky lanterns in his honor. Lantern Festivals originated centuries ago in other countries, (most specifically China and other Asian countries, but they\u2019ve been held in thousands around the globe) to honor deceased family members. When they are done safely (tethered), they are absolutely breathtaking to witness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We live on a hillside overlooking a large valley, the foothills, and Mt Rainier. Seeing the glow of the lanterns against the backdrop of the twinkling lights in the valley and the darkness of the hills behind it, is absolutely cathartic and beautiful. It\u2019s our love for our sweet boy, lighting up the sky, the way he lit up our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

July 3 is a week away now, and last night I had a confrontation with a neighboring couple, a husband and a wife, on our street, who threatened to \u2018report\u2019 us if we do our memorial this year. They said these memorials are \u2018unsafe and idiotic.\u2019 Many hurtful and insensitive things were said. We only use tethered lanterns so they can\u2019t get away from us, and then once the flame goes out we dispose of them. No danger, no litter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Courtesy of Jordan Peterson-DeRosier<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Afterwards my head was heavy with grief, and I cried heavy tears all night.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s heartbreaking that someone would be so uncaring, unsympathetic, unwavering in their goal to ruin a memorial for a deceased child. To further injure an already grieving family this way, especially a neighbor, is just abhorrent. As neighbors, as human beings, there\u2019s a level of compassion I think we all expect from others. It\u2019s unfortunate that expectation can be so easily met with disrespect and intentional hurt. I\u2019ll never understand why the response couldn\u2019t have been supportive and respectful. Why you wouldn\u2019t want to hold your neighbor up during a difficult time in their lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Courtesy of Jordan Peterson-DeRosier<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

My heart hurts. This home, this neighborhood, has been such a safe space for me since my son died. It has literally been therapeutic in all its beauty. Everything felt so right here and right now it feels tainted. I\u2019m uncomfortable living near someone so heartless, someone who has such little regard for others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This morning, because I am who I am, I got out of bed after crying all night and pulled myself together. I told myself I was done with the tears about this, and I contacted the Fire Marshal myself. I got expressed permission to have our tethered lantern memorial, in writing. I will not let my son\u2019s anniversary be clouded by another\u2019s lack of respect or compassion. Evil will not win.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Courtesy of Jordan Peterson-DeRosier<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n
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Courtesy of Jordan Peterson-DeRosier<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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