They are emotionally intelligent and attuned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Being a people pleaser often comes with a negative label. While people pleasers tend to abandon their wants and needs for others (such as saying yes when they want to say no), they also have many strengths and social skills that set them apart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cPeople pleasing is not a personality flaw or a weakness,\u201d Dr. Gary Dillon, PhD, a licensed psychologist and founder of Ally Psychological Therapy, told Upworthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He explained that people pleasing is an adaptive personality trait.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cIt is simply a response learned due to direct and indirect messages that being helpful, likeable, or agreeable is safer and more beneficial to the social companionship and love that we all seek in relationships,\u201d he added.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
People pleasing often develops in childhood as a defense mechanism for survival.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cAs a child, we may intuitively know that we need to help our parents get their needs met before they will meet our basic needs,\u201d Shari B. Kaplan, LCSW, founder and clinical director of Cannectd Wellness, told Upworthy. \u201cOr sometimes it just means meeting their needs or a sibling\u2019s needs so you can be emotionally or physically safe in the house,\u201d she continued.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
While people pleasing may come with downsides, it also comes with many strengths. Here are five hidden strengths that people-pleasers likely possess:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cPeople pleasers are extremely invested in attending to others and making them feel good,\u201d said Dr. Dillon. \u201cThey tend to develop a spidey-sense of sorts and are highly attuned to the needs of people around them and the feelings that they have,\u201d he added.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In turn, this gives people-pleasers a one-up on seeing others and attracting people to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThis sensitivity and awareness of cues, energy, and body language make them more supportive, attentive, empathetic, and thoughtful than most,\u201d Dr. Dillon explained. \u201cWe tend to gravitate towards them instinctively because of how they make us feel,\u201d he continued.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cMany people pleasers instinctively consider how a decision or an interaction might affect someone else,\u201d Kaplan said. \u201cThat ability to look beyond their own immediate experiences can support collaboration, creative problem-solving, and common ground. Strength becomes more sustainable when they include their own needs in the picture,\u201d she added.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cPeople pleasers are motivated not to let others down, and this usually presents as strong follow-through, thorough preparation, flexibility, and a low ego,\u201d Jessica Gordon, LCSW, psychotherapist and owner of\u00a0JNG Therapy, told Upworthy. \u201cThese qualities make for great teammates, colleagues, partners, and friends\u2014the type of person others feel confident they can count on. This kind of dependability and consistency builds trust, which is the foundation of any strong relationship or team,\u201d she continued.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dr. Dillon explained that people pleasers work to avoid conflict and navigate relationships seamlessly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cAs such, they are attentive to connecting with us via common ground; they are often open-minded to differing perspectives and compromising,\u201d he said. \u201cThey work to encourage collaboration and avoid disagreements in a way that makes us feel seen and heard. Since this is often experienced as pleasant, we lean into these relationships and want to connect and collaborate as much as possible,\u201d Dr. Dillon added.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cPeople pleasers will never let you down. When they commit, they stick to it because they care about how their actions may impact you,\u201d explained Dr. Dillon. \u201cSo we experience relationships with them as dependable, considerate, and valuable, and we feel like they are a part of the community or family that we are trying to create,\u201d he concluded.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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