{"id":12329,"date":"2026-10-23T07:25:47","date_gmt":"2026-10-23T07:25:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/humorsidehub.com\/?p=12329"},"modified":"2026-10-23T07:25:49","modified_gmt":"2026-10-23T07:25:49","slug":"a-man-in-the-crowd-yelled-marry-me-her-response-wasnt-exactly-what-he-hoped-for","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/humorsidehub.com\/?p=12329","title":{"rendered":"A man in the crowd yelled \u2018Marry me!\u2019 Her response wasn\u2019t exactly what he hoped for."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u2018Does that work out well for you, sir?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A fan of the Scottish synthpop band Chvrches got a bit more than he bargained for when he yelled to the stage.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMarry me!\u201d an unidentified man yelled out during a pause between songs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cPardon?\u201d Chvrches singer Lauren Mayberry responded, prompting the man to shout out, \u201cMarry me! Now!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Lauren<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Mayberry told the guy off, which led to articles with titles like \u201cWatch Chvrches\u2019 Lauren Mayberry Put Marriage Proposing Fan In His Place\u201d and \u201cCHVRCHES\u2019 Lauren Mayberry destroys heckler who asks her to marry him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what\u2019s the big deal? It\u2019s not like he was serious. Well\u2026<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

No, I sincerely doubt that the man in the crowd expected Mayberry to throw down her microphone and jump into his arms. Him saying \u201cmarry me\u201d was probably more of a stand-in for \u201cI like your music and respect you as a human being with boundaries!\u201d (OK, maybe not that last bit.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s a little more complicated than that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Lauren<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

If you know a bit more about Chvrches\u2019 backstory, Mayberry\u2019s response makes a lot of sense.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Throughout the band\u2019s career, Mayberry has been outspoken against music industry sexism and online harassment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In 2013, Mayberry posted a screenshot of a message sent to the band\u2019s Facebook page that read, \u201cCould you pass this correspondence on to the cute singer, I think we\u2019d make superior love together, and very much would like to take her to dinner.\u201d After responding, \u201cNo. That\u2019s disgusting,\u201d Mayberry was told it was a \u201cvery puritanical stance\u201d to take.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her response was simple: \u201cPlease stop sending us emails like this.\u201d In response, she received a slew of responses containing threats, twisted sexual fantasies, and general disregard for her existence as a human. That month, she penned an opinion piece for The Guardian, \u201cI will not accept online misogyny.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Lauren<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

\u201cBut why should women \u2018deal\u2019 with this?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Her post at The Guardian was a powerful rebuttal to anyone who has ever told her (or any female musician, for that matter) that she should just \u201cdeal with\u201d harassment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI absolutely accept that in this industry there is comment and criticism. There will always be bad reviews: such is the nature of a free press and free speech. \u2026 What I do not accept, however, is that it is all right for people to make comments ranging from \u2018a bit sexist but generally harmless\u2019 to openly sexually aggressive. That it is something that \u2018just happens.\u2019 Is the casual objectification of women so commonplace that we should all just suck it up, roll over and accept defeat? I hope not. Objectification, whatever its form, is not something anyone should have to \u2018just deal with.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Years later, the harassment continues. But Mayberry isn\u2019t giving up.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Earlier this year, Mayberry posted another screenshot of a message sent to one of the band\u2019s social media accounts on her personal Instagram page. The message, in which an anonymous voice from the Internet threatens to sexually assault Mayberry with a cheese grater, was posted alongside Mayberry\u2019s eloquent response.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cMy band is lucky enough to have some of the most awesome, supportive and respectful fans in the world and we are so excited to be in the studio making an album to share with them. Yet, on a daily basis, we still receive communications like this. These people never learn that violence against women is unacceptable. But they also never learn that women will not be shamed and silenced and made to disappear. I am not going anywhere. So bring it on, motherfuckers. Let\u2019s see who blinks first.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

So, in hindsight, maybe yelling \u201cMarry me!\u201d at Lauren Mayberry wasn\u2019t the best idea.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The man may have meant well, but combined with the sexualized messages from other fans and critics alike, it creates an atmosphere of uncomfortable, unwanted comments. It\u2019s a lot like street harassment: While the intention might have been to \u201ccompliment\u201d someone, the effect can be something so completely different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Watch Mayberry\u2019s showdown with the \u201cMarry me\u201d guy in the video below.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

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