Opening lines that are hard to refuse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You\u2019re standing in line at the grocery store and you see someone cute. You\u2019d like to strike up a conversation without it being awkward\u2026but that feels kinda nerve-wracking, right? Or maybe you\u2019re standing around at a party and see someone you\u2019d like to get to know, and want to approach them in a way that doesn\u2019t feel uncomfortable. That probably feels a little scary, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The good news is that with a few easy tricks, you can improve your communication skills and feel confident approaching anyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
According to years of psychological research, several principles can help make striking up conversations with strangers easier. The great thing is that they all work best when approached in a casual, effortless way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Comment on the environment
Let\u2019s say you\u2019re at a party in someone\u2019s living room. You can comment on physical objects: \u201cGee, this guy sure has a lot of books.\u201d Or maybe you\u2019re at a party where everyone brought food: \u201cThe food smells great. What are you grabbing first?\u201d You can also comment on people\u2019s behavior: \u201cIs it me, or is everyone really well dressed tonight?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This works because of the Joint Attention Effect, which says that when two people pay attention to the same thing at the same time, they create a common point of reference. This shared focus can immediately make people feel closer, even in social situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. Make a playful comment
People will usually respond when you make a playful or unexpected comment, as long as it isn\u2019t threatening. For example, if the person you want to talk to is holding a cocktail, you might joke, \u201cThat drink looks serious.\u201d If you\u2019re stuck in a long line: \u201cDo you know why we\u2019re here? I almost forgot why we\u2019re in line\u2014it\u2019s been so long.\u201d Or if you\u2019re at a child\u2019s birthday party and spot another parent you\u2019d like to talk to: \u201cBe honest, how tired of Little Caesars\u2019 pizza are you?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This works because of the Benign Violations Theory, which suggests that when someone violates a social norm in a non-threatening way, it makes people laugh and activates bonding mechanisms. It signals to your new friend that you\u2019re playful and friendly, and when they laugh at your joke, it shows that you share similar values.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. Ask their opinion
Another effortless way to engage someone you don\u2019t know is to ask their opinion. For example, if you\u2019re in the produce section at the supermarket, you might ask, \u201cDo these peaches look good to you?\u201d Or if you\u2019re at a party and bring up a pop culture moment most people watched: \u201cSo, was Bad Bunny great at the Super Bowl, or is he overrated?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This works because of what\u2019s known as Cognitive Ease: people are more likely to respond to questions that are easy to process. Asking someone for their subjective opinion is non-threatening, and it\u2019s easy for them to come up with an answer that makes them feel comfortable. Plus, if social media has taught us anything, it\u2019s that everyone loves to share their opinions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Next step: Pivot and ask questions<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Given that all of these strategies are psychologically designed to elicit a response, even from someone you\u2019ve never met, you have a strong chance of sparking a conversation. The key is to widen the exchange once you get that response by asking two more questions. In fact, a Harvard University study found that one of the easiest ways to be likable is to start a conversation with a question and then follow up with two more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWe identify a robust and consistent relationship between question-asking and liking,\u201d the study\u2019s authors wrote. \u201cPeople who ask more questions, particularly follow-up questions, are better liked by their conversation partners.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
These three psychological rules show that it doesn\u2019t take a Herculean effort to coax a stranger into having a conversation. All you have to do is make an effortless invitation by tapping into the environment you share with them, make a playful joke, or ask their opinion. Then ask a few questions, listen, and there\u2019s a good chance you\u2019ve made a new friend.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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