As clear as it may be to outsiders, emotional abuse can be difficult to recognize while it\u2019s happening, especially in a culture that romanticizes all-consuming (aka codependent) relationships. Needless to say, this makes it hard to spot common abusive phrases in everyday life \u2014 after all, part of the power an abuser holds in such a relationship lies in their ability to make the victim think that the abuse is \u201call in their head,\u201d or that it\u2019s their own fault. Unfortunately, emotional abuse often goes unnoticed or ignored as a result; in fact, the abuser may not even realize how destructive their manipulations can be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Of course, this begs the question of what constitutes emotional abuse. Simply put, this type of abuse is a pattern of behavior that consistently degrades, humiliates, or invalidates the victim\u2019s self-worth or personality. It can take all kinds of forms: The silent treatment, controlling behavior, subtle (or not-so-subtle) put-downs, bouts of jealousy, and so on. On their own, some of these behaviors are excusable; a small amount of jealousy is normal in a relationship, and we\u2019ve all resorted to the silent treatment once or twice, no matter how petty it may be. However, a relationship becomes abusive when these behaviors are frequent tactics used to manipulate the victim into staying with the abuser, no matter how unhealthy the relationship turns out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The following list of common abusive phrases is far from exhaustive, but it\u2019s a start \u2014 although if you\u2019re already wondering whether you\u2019re in an abusive relationship, chances are you might be. On the other hand, saying one or two of the following phrases doesn\u2019t make you abusive, but if you find yourself using them frequently, it\u2019s probably time to reassess your relationships with others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. \u201cGet Over It.\u201d
This phrase, or any other phrase implying someone is too sensitive, is an easy way to assert power: Not only does it downplay the source of distress, which was probably the abuser, it also invalidates the victim\u2019s feelings \u2014 a common sign of gaslighting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. \u201cYour Problem Is\u2026\u201d
Victims of abuse are often subject to a stream of criticism about everything from their looks to their personality; emotional abusers find ways to create insecurities where there may be none, and they later exploit them for their own gain. Needless to say, this can take an enormous toll on a victim\u2019s self-esteem over time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. \u201cFor Your Own Good.\u201d
Abusive people are controlling by nature, and chances are they\u2019ll try to couch their actions in terms of the victim\u2019s benefit at first. However, any attempts to control you, whether it\u2019s telling you to change into a longer skirt or open a joint bank account, are ultimately for their good, not yours.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. \u201cYou\u2019re Not Worth It.\u201d
This phrase can serve several purposes: First, it literally downplays your worth as a human being, and second, it implies that the abuser nobly suffers through your presence when nobody else will. Furthermore, it could be used as a threat to leave the victim, which is a common sign of emotional abuse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
5. \u201cI Love You, But\u2026\u201d
Abusers aren\u2019t always negative; they may even profess their love frequently. However, it\u2019s often followed by a reason they think they\u2019re the only person who will love you, which encourages you to stay in the relationship while also reinforcing your low self-esteem. Additionally, it may serve to isolate the victim from friends and loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
6. \u201cOr Else.\u201d
Whether they\u2019re threatening to harm you, themselves, or leave it unsaid, this phrase is a threat, pure and simple. If someone uses it against you, it\u2019s time to get out of the relationship as fast as possible.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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