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<\/figure>\n\n\n\n\u201cLast week was the last straw, I took my daughter to my parents and of course she went EVERYWHERE! flooded their toilet, broke a vase, and tried multiple times to climb their furniture,\u201d the Reddit mom writes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Parents in a foreign environment are on constant safety duty and can rarely sit down<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Let\u2019s be honest. Sometimes these \u201cvisits\u201d are hardly worth the effort. After all, it\u2019s hard to get much catch up time when you\u2019re dutifully chasing your kid around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cThey don\u2019t understand that my 3 yo \u2026 is absolutely wild,\u201d writes another user in the thread. \u201cShe has no self preservation and nothing we do works. She doesn\u2019t listen, she throws, she bites, she refuses to use the potty. It\u2019s exhausting and then \u2026 they expect us to entertain them, when I\u2019m trying to just keep my kid from jumping off the stairs and into an ER visit.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n A visit at the grandparents\u2019 house is often not a fun catch-up time for mom and dad. It\u2019s rare to get to sit down and have an adult conversation when they\u2019re busy trying to play Safety Police. It\u2019s common to leave one of these visits frustrating and like it wasn\u2019t really a visit at all. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Even just putting the kids in the car for a 20-minute drive is more work than it seems<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Taking the kids out of the house requires packing a bag, bringing extra clothes, loading up on snacks, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It seems easy to \u201cpop over\u201d but it actually absorbs the majority of the day between prep, visit, and aftermath. In the case of the OP mom and her parents that are \u201cjust\u201d 30 minutes away, that\u2019s an entire hour of just driving, not counting any visiting time. If anyone\u2019s ever driven with young kids, you know that\u2019s an eternity! For a drive like that, you need snacks, you need entertainment. You may have to clean up spills, deal with traffic tantrums, or pull over to break up a fight. It\u2019s really a lot of work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Naps and routines go to hell<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Parents with babies and toddlers know all too well \u2014 there is a price to pay for taking the kids out of the house for too long.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Chances are, the baby won\u2019t nap in a strange environment and then you\u2019re stuck with a cranky kid the rest of the night. You can and will try, bringing your little pack-and-play and your best intentions, but the process will be draining and probably unsuccessful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And then guess what? You\u2019re totally screwed when you go home later, yay!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kids with special needs require even more co<\/strong>nsistency<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Kids with autism or ADHD can really struggle outside of their zone of safety. They might become severely dysregulated, have meltdowns, or engage in dangerous behaviors. This adds even more stress to parents and makes the visits even less fun and satisfying in the end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Why is this a conflict almost all parents can relate to?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Is this a Boomer vs Millennials thing?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Some experts think that generational values and traditions might play a role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cMany Boomers were accustomed to more traditional, hierarchical family dynamics, where visiting grandparents was a way for the younger generation to show respect,\u201d says Caitlin Slavens, a family psychologist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But that\u2019s not to say this is a new problem. I can remember my own parents driving me and my brothers over an hour to visit my grandparents seemingly every other weekend, but very few occasions where they came to visit us. It must have driven my parents nuts back then!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Plus, it\u2019s easy to forget that it\u2019s hard for older people to travel, too. They may have their own issues and discomforts when it comes to being away from their home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBut for today\u2019s parents, balancing careers, kids\u2019 routines, and the demands of modern parenting is a much bigger undertaking. Grandparents might not always see how childproofing their space or making the trip themselves could make a huge difference, especially considering how travel and disruption can impact younger kids\u2019 moods and routines,\u201d Slavens says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cSo yes, this divide often comes down to different expectations and life experiences, with older generations potentially not seeing the daily demands modern families face.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cFirst, open conversations help bridge the divide\u2014explain how much of a difference it makes when the kids stay in a familiar space, especially when they\u2019re very young,\u201d suggests Slavens.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cShare practical details about the challenges, like childproofing concerns or travel expenses, to help grandparents see it from a parent\u2019s perspective. You might even work together to figure out solutions, like making adjustments to create a more child-friendly space in their home or agreeing on a shared travel plan.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ultimately, it\u2019s a good thing when grandparents, friends, and other relatives want to see the kids. We all have the same goal. Just look at how incredible it can be when everything goes right:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cIt\u2019s helpful to approach the topic with empathy, focusing on everyone\u2019s goal: more quality time together that\u2019s enjoyable and low-stress for everyone involved. For parents, it\u2019s about setting boundaries that work, and for grandparents, it\u2019s about recognizing that flexibility can really show the parents that you are \u2026 willing to make adjustments for their children and grandchildren.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Enjoyable, low-stress quality time is something everyone<\/em> can get behind.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Our kids are probably going to hurt your house and themselves. It\u2019s a good news\/bad news situation for parents of young kids. The good news? 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