Entrepreneur and author Mo Gawdat has spent over 20 years researching the science of happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We\u2019ve all been there: it\u2019s 90 degrees outside, absolutely sweltering, and you\u2019re walking home from a new smoothie shop less than a mile away from your apartment, and everything is melting. The smoothie in your right hand. The a\u00e7a\u00ed bowl in your left. Your old, broken headphones slowly slip off your head as a song you\u2019ve never heard before blares through the speakers. Your willpower is diminishing by the second, and no one is around to help you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Okay, that might be a bit specific (and precisely what happened to me about an hour ago). Still, you\u2019ve likely had a similar experience: an encounter that left you annoyed, frustrated, or feeling hopeless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But what if I told you that, according to Mo Gawdat, a former Google executive who has spent the last 20 years researching the mechanics of happiness, you only need to endure that emotional roller coaster for precisely 90 seconds?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Meet the man behind the 90-second rule<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s time to meet the man who is revolutionizing our understanding of our emotions by giving us all a science-backed way to hit the reset button on our worst days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mo Gawat isn\u2019t your typical wellness guru peddling crystals and manifestation journals. This is a guy who spent years as Chief Business Officer at Google X, the company\u2019s \u201cMoonshot Factory,\u201d where he pursued ambitious, high-risk but potentially world-changing projects that tackled large-scale global problems like climate change, healthcare, and communications. But his most profound discovery about human happiness stemmed from his darkest hour.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When Gawdat\u2019s 21-year-old son Ali died from preventable medical negligence during what should have been a routine surgery in 2014, he faced a darkness that would define the rest of his career. A clear choice emerged. He could either let this grief consume him, or honor his son by dedicating his analytical mind to a path Ali had always encouraged him to pursue: spreading happiness to as many people as possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Seventeen days after losing his son, Gawdat sat down and began writing Solve for Happy: Engineer Your Path to Joy. Through this book, he uncovered a revolutionary truth: our emotions aren\u2019t permanent. They have expiration dates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The fascinating brain science behind your emotional meltdowns<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here\u2019s where things get fascinating. When developing what would later be known as the \u201c90-second rule,\u201d Gawdat stumbled upon the findings of Harvard-trained neuroscientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor. Similarly, her research was also formed in the pressure cooker of an unexpected, dramatic life experience: the moment when she underwent a massive stroke.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As Dr. Taylor\u2019s left brain hemisphere shut down, she gained unprecedented real-time insight into how emotions function in the body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What she discovered is that when something triggers you, be it a spilled smoothie or a coworker\u2019s passive-aggressive \u201cper my last email\u201d message, your amygdala (think of it as your brain\u2019s overly cautious security guard) floods your system with stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline. Your heart starts to race as if you\u2019ve just spotted a bear and begun to run, your muscles tense up, and that instinctual fight-or-flight response surges through your body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, this chemical cascade has a built-in timer. As Dr. Taylor discovered, it takes approximately 90 seconds for these stress hormones to be flushed from your bloodstream. Meaning that, after that initial surge, the physical component of your emotional reaction is over.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But why doesn\u2019t it feel like that? Why do we marinate in our emotions (anger, sadness, confusion, delusion) for hours, days, or more? That\u2019s because, after those 90 seconds, we make a choice, usually without realizing it, to keep those emotions going by mentally rewinding and replaying the triggering event.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Why do we keep choosing emotional suffering?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhat happens is, you run the thought in your head again, and you renew your 90 seconds,\u201d Gawdat explains. It\u2019s like poking a bruise that\u2019s formed on your knee, or hitting refresh on your personal stress response button. Every time you mentally revisit a stressful event, analyzing what you should have said, reimagining confrontations, and crafting the perfect comeback, you\u2019re essentially retriggering that same potent chemical reaction that occurred in the first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So, while that 90-second episode of emotions ends quickly, we end up ruminating about what happened: over and over and over and over again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is more than a mere annoyance. Ift\u2019s rewiring our brains in a bad way. Research shows that rumination doesn\u2019t just prolong our bad moods, it intensifies them and can lead to anxiety and depression. We\u2019re thinking ourselves into extended mental states simply by focusing too much on the past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The three questions that reality-check your brain<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What happens when you\u2019ve successfully coasted through those initial 90 seconds but still feel like the world is out to get you? Gawdat developed a handy three-question reality check that serves as an emotional fact-checker for your brain:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Question 1: Is it true?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gawdat claims that \u201c90% of the things that make us unhappy are not even true.\u201d Think about it: your partner seems distracted during dinner, and suddenly your brain spins an entire narrative about how they\u2019ve fallen out of love with you. But how much of that is real? And what percentage of your little daydream can be chalked up to your brain being its usual dramatic self?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
At best, our brains are excellent storytellers. The problem is that they\u2019re prone to writing fiction and presenting it as truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So, the next time you find yourself spinning up a stressful \u201cwhat if?\u201d situation in your head, take a beat, and ask yourself a different question: \u201cIs it true?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Question 2: Can I take action?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If the answer to question one is \u201cYes, it is true,\u201d then move on to Gawdat\u2019s second question. Are there steps you can take?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you have a real problem on your hands, then perfect! Channel that energy into solving it rather than drowning in it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Question 3: Can I accept it and still create a better life despite it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here\u2019s where things get tricky. If you can\u2019t do anything about the situation, the final question before you becomes about \u201ccommitted acceptance.\u201d No, not passive resignation, but actively choosing to move forward and build something better despite the circumstances.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This can be difficult (remember, this process began with Gawdat searching for a way to make sense of his son\u2019s death) but these questions aren\u2019t about forcing toxic positivity or pretending like problems don\u2019t exist. They help your brain make sense of what\u2019s happened, distinguishing between productive and unproductive emotional energy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Your brain: the overprotective parent<\/p>\n\n\n\n
To understand how this works, it helps to think of your brain as an overprotective, hovering parent who sees danger everywhere. \u201cYour brain isn\u2019t your source of truth,\u201d Gawdat explains. \u201cIt\u2019s just a survival machine. A search party. It throws thoughts at you, hoping something will protect you. But that doesn\u2019t mean any of them are true.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Your mammalian brain evolved to keep you alive, not happy. When modern life presents you with stressful situations like traffic jams, work pressures, and particularly hot and evil temperatures, your ancient survival systems register these \u201cthreats\u201d with the same emotional urgency as a saber-toothed tiger attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Putting the 90-second rule into practice<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So, what does this really look like in real life knowing the science is only half the battle?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Step 1: Notice the surge<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When you feel that familiar rush of anger, frustration, or anxiety, create a mental note. \u201cOkay, this is a chemically induced wave of emotion,\u201d you might say to yourself without judgment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Step 2: Set a timer, literally<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For the first 90 seconds, your job is to observe. Feel every emotion to its fullest: your heart racing, your muscles tensing, your breath shortening. Acknowledge these physical sensations without trying to fix or stop them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Step 3: Breathe and wait<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Deep breathing can help calm your nervous system after an onslaught of chemical reactions and prevent your brain from fueling the emotional fire mentally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Step 4: Choose your response<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When those 90 seconds pass, you have what Gawdat calls a \u201cbuffer,\u201d a moment of clarity when you can decide what to do next.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Step 5: Apply the three questions<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you\u2019re still upset after the initial wave, run through Gawdat\u2019s reality-check framework.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The 90-second rule offers a unique perspective on relating to your vitally essential emotions. Emotions provide information about the environment and motivate us to take action. The 90-second rule helps us experience our emotions fully without letting them hijack our entire day or our entire life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The happiness equation connection<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This framework connects to Gawdat\u2019s broader \u201chappiness equation,\u201d which posits that happiness equals life events minus expectations. Much of our suffering comes not from what happens to us, but from the gap between the triggering event and what we think should happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As Gawdat puts it, \u201cLife doesn\u2019t give a damn about you. It\u2019s your choice how you react to every one of [life\u2019s challenges].\u201d Which may sound harsh, but when put into practice, can prove quite liberating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The next time you feel yourself crashing out, remember: you have 90 seconds to feel as irrational as humanly possible. After that? You get to decide how to spend the rest of your day.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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